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My Failure as a Step-Mother

The only thing my husband asked me to do was to love her. I did not know how difficult it would be to find a way to express unconditional love to a child that hated me before she ever met me. At this point in time I have failed that mission. My husband wanted me to teach her lessons that he wasn’t able to and that her mother found ‘inappropriate’. I could go on and on about how others helped…

The Making of an A**hole

There is a meme I’ve seen on Facebook that asks the question, “have you ever met a kid and thought to yourself, ‘he’s definitely going to grow up to be an asshole’.” And the few variations of, “if you don’t want your kids to be an asshole, stop being an asshole”. I love the way the phrase is worded to circumvent actually calling a child an asshole because let’s face it, someone would call DYFS on you if you did.…

From the Daughter of a Vietnam Vet

Before they had a name for it we witnessed the effects of conflict on the human soul. What war really does to a person to a family. Now they call it PTSD. Childhood consisted of poppies & parades and visits to the VFW. We were told to hate Jane Fonda and forbidden to watch her movies. Family vacation included a visit to the Wall and no understanding why dad ran ahead crying. Only certain men were given hearty handshakes or…

A letter to my step-daughter

Grace, Do you remember when your father told you he had a girlfriend? I was on the phone with him at the time and he told me you didn’t like it that you made a face. I have been disrespected by you so often that I am numb. I expect you to be defiant, hurtful or rude and I am never disappointed. You have been mean. You have accused me of being mean since the day you met me because…

The Wicked are Misunderstood

To say the wicked are misunderstood is an understatement. Disney movies are known for their sad openings to their happily ever after nonsense. Nemo’s mom dies, Cinderella loses her father. But what about the step-mothers? In this modern age, I can not imagined there being such a thing as an obedient step-daughter. I tend to doubt Cinderella was ever cooperative upon request. Every telling of Cinderella, all the different versions are from her point of view. There is a saying…

The Court & the C*nt

When a family court case goes to trial the judge becomes the jury. He or she takes the place of what should be twelve jurors and ultimately decides the outcome of the case. He listens to the testimony, is supposed to read all the documentation and evidence submitted. Who knows if he actually does. We had Judge Wright. I originally thought his name was White which made me snicker since he is in fact a black man. When my step-daughter…

Mom Knows Best – Advice for sorting through all the advice

Throughout a woman’s pregnancy, she becomes the target of well-meaning friends, relatives and complete strangers’ opinions and comments. Everyone from your grandmother to the lady behind you at the grocery store has something to say about pregnancy. From gender predictions to heartburn and stretch marks everyone has myths and old wives’ tales to pass along. Eventually the pregnancy and the advice come to an end with the birth of your child. But what do you do after the baby is…